Friday, April 18, 2014

OMER Day 3: Reflection


The next stop in our Omer (ac)counting involves reflection.  Until we know where we've been, it's sometimes hard to know where to go.  That is one of the reasons we tell and re-tell the Passover story each year: to recall what hardship is, to remind us of how sweet freedom can be.  In doing so, we are supposed to inspire ourselves to ensure that no one suffers such oppression in our midst, moving forward.  And to help each of us see a glimmer of hope: that no matter how far we may feel we are from our own, personal freedom from that which plagues us, we have to keep working without giving up, so that we too can sing on the other side of our own parted seas.




One of those places on the other side of the sea that I've been working towards this year has been rights for those with questionable immigration status here in the U.S.  If you read my own journal entry below, you'll understand a bit more about it, and why it's a part of my own day of reflection. . . Or you can read Rabbi Karyn Kedar's understanding of it, as well.
Day 3 Omer journaling: Reflect: What lessons have you learned about yourself in the past year?  You can bullet point a list, but I'm going to go in depth on a certain area in this one (and introduce another recurring theme for this Omer blog).

Day 3 Omer action: Do something good for someone else, based on your new insight. . . I know, vague, right?  Sorry, but each of us has learned something very different about ourselves.  If it's a strength: use your strength for good.  If you found a weakness, go ahead and see if someone else can help you address the weakness - sometimes when we ask others for help, it turns out we offer them the chance to feel really good about being of service to someone they love. . . Just sayin' (Thanks, Rabbi Kipnes, for that lesson).

Ha-yom Shlosha yamim la-omer.
Today is the third day of the omer.


My journal: This year, I have learned a lot about developing my own voice when it comes to seeking justice.  I've been timid about speaking out on matters that are somewhat controversial in the public sphere, even when I feel there is clear, compelling reasons to do so.  I'm not a rock-the-boat type of guy: in high school, people nicknamed me "Benvolio" when we were reading Romeo and Juliet (for those who can't remember the poor fellow, he was the guy who continually tried to make peace between the Montagues and the Capulets).  But I have learned this year that there comes a time that in order to bring peace, one must bring the issues to the surface and create a dialogue and understanding.

I learned to use my voice through our work here at TBO on supporting the Moral Mondays movement.  And I have learned a great deal about political action through my work on immigration reform with the Rabbis Organizing Rabbis group.  I joined a group of rabbis who met with the offices Senators in DC prior to the Senate's approval of a comprehensive immigration reform bill.  Since then, we have been working on how to keep the dream of a better path to immigration than the one that exists.

Along the way, I learned that our current system does not only negatively impact those who have crossed a border without the proper papers to do so.  A colleague of mine was threatened with deportation when her work visa was not going to be renewed.  Another colleague could not enter the country for the first two months of her contract with a congregation in the northeast because she was Canadian and the visa would not go through quickly enough.  Another Canadian-born, talented Jewish educator in Texas had to leave a job because a visa had run out.
And for those who did come here illegally, it does not change the fact that they have children here who are citizens. And there are children who have grown up here without knowing anything else.  Entire sectors of the economy depend on those who are willing to come here to work, because those who have grown up in America do not want the jobs (which brings up an entirely different issue about fair wages, but I digress).

We never know when the person who comes here will be like our biblical hero, Ruth.  She gave up all she knew in order to live among her deceased husband's people.  She chose to support her mother-in-law.  She chose to fully join her new society.  And in the end, she gave back to the community way more than it could have given to her.  We never know when the person who comes here will be like our own grandparent or great-grandparent: the person whose bravery and resolve, whose willingness to infatilize oneself by diving into a new place where everything is different, down to the words one must use, to put up with the stigma of being "foreign," to start over from whatever was, has given us the chance to be as comfortably who we are today.  I'll get more in-depth as to the issues in the weeks to come, and I understand that we can't just have the entire world move here - but the system as it stands has the potential to tear families apart, to ruin sectors of our economy, to push away talented people who could be a part of our country's revitalization.  For so many reasons - those that affect us directly and those that affect us because we are caring individuals who seek justice - we just cannot stand idly by.

This is a big part of what I have learned this year.  For myself, my action today will be to help out with a Rabbis-organizing-rabbis campaign, and change my profile picture on facebook to the above picture.  I'll also post the RavBlog entry about the "I am Ruth" campaign on social media, and I'll invite a few other rabbis to do so.  If you'd like to join me in the efforts, I'd love it!  I didn't say the action had to be huge, but for the next few weeks, when people interact with me via social media


Thursday, April 17, 2014

OMER DAY 2: Taking Note of What Has Become "Clutter"

OMER DAY 2: Taking Note

Any good accounting starts from knowing what you have.  Therefore, I'm dedicating this first week of Omer (ac)counting to inventory.  During my engineering days, I once had a manufacturing job that involved streamlining the workspaces for certain processes.  Before we could make improvements to the infrastructure, we had to first identify what we had to work with.  Instead of coming in and knowing the changes to make, I'd sit with my teammates and figure out what they had in their workspaces and understand why it was there.  Often, we'd find a tool that was taking up valuable space on their worktable that had no need to be there, but it didn't "live" anywhere else.  It became so much a part of their everyday work environment, that the person who used the workstation no longer noticed the tool, but instead worked around it.  A few people did not even include such large tools in the list of objects we had asked them to make that were at their workstations.  Until we gave them the option of having the tool elsewhere, they chose to just not notice its existence, anymore - it was a fabric of their reality.  The tool had become clutter.  But it was actually a very important tool to have, from time-to-time, when it was needed.  It just wasn't usually needed by that person.

We live this way, often - items, relationships, problems, hopes - they just lie around our space, cluttering our lives.  (If anyone has seen the corner of my room near my bed, you'll know I need to work on this, severely . . . Rachel is in a constant state of noticing it, but I walk right by it far too often).  Every day, we walk by the same people at work, we drive by those on the sides of the street, we step past beautiful flowers or ugly weeds without giving a second thought to their existence.  Even those we notice everyday because we work with them, drop off kids with them, transact with them: they become objects to us, the source of the output of what they are doing.  Do we spend enough time realizing their humanity and noticing who they are?  Do we see the wonder and amazing aspects of our surroundings, or does it just serve to be more clutter?

Today, may it be a day of noticing that which surrounds us.  It may overwhelm. . . as I'm typing this, I'm noticing all the little bits of paper un-filed on my desk and starting to get a little exasperated.  But it's okay, don't worry about the sorting, yet.  Just take it in and allow yourself to incorporate the theme of the yotzer or blessing - Thanks for the constant creation that surrounds us, that we notice by the impact of light.  At each moment, we perceive what we see because new light hits our eyes.  Every second is an opportunity to see newness - but do we take note?

Day 2 Omer-Journaling: 
  • Make a list of things or people you noticed today that you do not usually pay attention to (Again, don't have to be comprehensive, but do a nice accounting of what you've seen today, and see if there's anything you did not notice on first glance)

Day 2 Omer Activity: 
  • Take one of the objects from the list above that does not belong where it lives, and put it in a new place. 
  • Stop to have a personal conversation with a person who has become a bit of an "object" in your life (if you do not have time for this today, it's okay - we'll re-visit this one later. . .)
Today is Day 2 of the Omer

(Here's my journaling so far):
  • Papers on my desk that need filing
  • Magen David Adom Tzedakah box hidden amongst said files. . . (not doing anyone any good there!)
  • My TBO nametag that I could not remember where I had stored it (it's sitting less than six inches from my monitor
  • I saw the most incredible tribute from a grandchild towards a grandfather at a funeral today - so touching, personal, and filled-with true knowledge of the person about whom he was talking.
  • The aforementioned pile of "stuff" I have in the corner of my bedroom.
  • A piece of furniture that Rachel wants to get rid of that is just sitting against a wall
  • My Rhea Hirsch School of Jewish Eduation graduation gift that sits on my wall with the following lesson:
    • Raba said, "When people are led in for Judgment they are asked: 
      • Did you deal faithfully [i.e. with integrity]? 
      • Did you fix times for learning? 
      • Did you engage in procreation (or the act of raising/educating children)? 
      • Did you hope for salvation (or a better situation than we now have)? 
      • Did you engage in the dialectics of wisdom? 
      • Did you understand one thing from another?
- Babylonian Talmud: Shabbat 31a
  • Laila's ears stick out a little bit under all that hair! (Not as much as mine, though)
  • I have not followed up with one of my coworkers about a personal thing going on with them that I should have checked-in about.
  • And it shall go on from here. . . .


Wednesday, April 16, 2014

OMER DAY 1: Accounting Blessings

It is still the chag, the festival period of Passover, a time of joy.  So, I'm going to start my accounting from a place of joy and happiness.  At the recent CCAR conference (it's the big rabbis union), I heard from a number of folks that hope and inspiration is a much better motivator than fear.
I heard that phrase and just took it in - I thought, "Sure - makes sense." But now that I reflect on it in context of our Omer accounting, it makes more sense. What we love drives us to think bigger about doing what is truly right and just, to dream for the heights and swing for the fences.  Fear may more urgently drive us, but only so far as to do just enough to get us out of the fearful zone.  Living in fear for too long causes too many neuroses, so the constant fear option doesn't work for me either.

Today's Omer accounting involves taking stock of that which makes you happy.  So far, the format I'll be using is to introduce the accounting theme of the day, a reflection question (or two), and some active tasks.  Will I be able to do it all each day?  Who knows?  But we can't get there if we don't try!  This blog will serve as my journal.  I invite you to do the same for yourself - journal your own Omer accounting.

Personal Omer reflection #1: Take stock of the blessings you are feeling right now (do not put too much pressure on yourself to be comprehensive)

  • Though I'm often too busy to notice, I am feeling incredibly blessed right now.  And I don't use the word "blessed" lightly: the overtly religious connotation sits in my throat a bit every time I talk use it - it feels almost supernatural.  Yet, when I allow myself to get over the word's cultural context, it represents the idea that I am able to experience happiness and joy from things that are not fully under my own control.  I may be able to influence the love my wife has for me through acts of care and careful listening (which I know I would like to do more of than I actually end up doing) - but, ultimately, I cannot control her love for me - it is her willing choice to insanely feel such sentiments for a guy like me.  And so I cannot take for granted and think it is in my own hands - it is a blessing.
  • So, random word-association list of blessings:
    • The love of an incredibly talented and beautiful inside-and-out partner in my wife.
    • Kids that make me smile just by taking breaths
    • Sunshine
    • Chicago Cubs baseball, no matter how futile this year's hopes are
      • Daughters who know not of such futility, but instead laugh with joy and say "Go Cubs" every time they see a big, red "C" or a pitcher throwing a ball, regardless of his team.
    • Community
    • Dancing
    • Ability to think and solve problems
    • DVR
    • Kosher-for-Passover jelly fruit slices (sorry, Rach, but those things just make me happy)
    • Random phone calls/emails from friends 
    • That the movie Starship Troopers exists
    • The moments when someone notices the effort I put in
    • Catching one's breath while running and getting into the zone
    • Living in the present
I could go on and on, but the omer accounting is not intended to take up the entire day.  Already, though, I'm feeling much smilier (not-a-word, but it should be) than when I sat down at the computer!


Omer task #1: Show someone they are your blessings

  • Say "Thank  you" to someone who looks out for you on a daily basis, above and beyond the "call of duty"
  • Say "I love you" to a friend or family member you haven't spoken to in a while.
  • Write a hand-written note (thank you card, letter, anything) to someone who makes you happy.



Today is Day 1 of the Omer. . . Ha-yom yom echad la-omer.

(Ac)Counting the Omer - 5774

Happy Passover, 5774.  This is the time of year in which we celebrate our own freedoms and commit ourselves to ensuring that all those around us are liberated from bondage, as well.  

We also count these days between Passover and Shavuot, spiritually preparing ourselves to celebrate the receiving of Torah.  Each day, one was to sacrifice an Omer's worth of grains, in order to mark that these weeks are different from all other weeks.  They remind us that the Passover story did not just end on the other side of the sea; that the work of the Israelites was just beginning at that moment when they stopped their dancing and celebrating.  The hand of God had delivered them from Egypt, but it would be the hand of the people that would determine for what purpose.  Shavuot represents the time in which this aimless group of wanderers were given a meaning and a mission - to create a just society, predicated on equality and shared responsibilities.  The Israel they were compelled to create was to be the anti-Egypt: a horizontal human leadership structure.  

Enough historical context: this brings me to this year's Omer counting.  Each day we count, we are supposed to advance our own spiritual connection with bigger ideas than our everyday routines. In doing so, we have the chance to solidify our own personal purposes.  And so, I am going to use the Omer this year as a means of accounting justice and freedom in our time.  I could certainly fill this space with reflections about super-sized issues that plague millions of fellow humans across the world.  But I do not wish to ignore the individual accounting that I believe to be a part of this Omer period - we are to take stock of our own struggles to create just living.  If you'll count with me, we'll visit topics such as modern slavery, addiction, hunger, immigration, oppression of the checkbook, oppression of the calendar, to name a few.  

While in the past, I have viewed this omer counter primarily as an educational tool for others, to help the reader find spiritual growth and an invitation to find one's own holiness; this time around, I see it as a personal journey, as well.  Rather than counting, this is my Omer accounting.  And as any good accounting practice should do, I hope it will lead me to understanding my own priorities and the resources from which I can put my reflections into action.  I hope that this space will help your own accounting, as well.  


Monday, February 25, 2013

Oscars and Idols - The Power of Art


"And the Oscar goes to . . ."
Today's Golden Calf?
These words kept many of us on the edge of our seats this weekend, as the Academy Awards celebrated the finest artistry in the major motion picture industry.  Together, we lifted up the contributions of the arts, allowing ourselves to remember how art can move us, comfort us, disturb us, help us find perspectives that we have never before seen.  It is not at all about the money, power, pageantry, scandal, and fashion that seem to be bigger than life, right? 

It's fitting that the Oscars coincided with our portion Ki Tisa this year, as we see the contrast between valuing artisanship and making art into a false idol.  We read about the craftsmanship of Bezalel, the artist, who completes the finer elements of the Mishkan - the Tabernacle - in which the Holy of Holies is housed.  Bezalel's artwork, as prescribed by God, is there to adorn and complement the holiness of its setting, to move those who behold it, not to become the focal point itself.  I can only imagine that beholding its beauty would be awe-inspiring, helping us to feel the importance of the space in which it is placed.

Was this dinky thing REALLY worth it?
On the other hand, Ki Tisa also relates the crafting of the golden calf.  Another piece of art that the Israelites create while Moses is away receiving Torah from God.  This sculpture serves the opposite purpose of Bezalel's works - the calf is the center, it becomes bigger than life.  I'm sure it too must have been an awe-inspiring sight, but one that inspired the worship of money, power, pageantry, and scandal.  This golden calf became a focal point for the community - diverting their attention away from what was important in their lives, instead filling their attention with a wasteful emptiness.  And what were they filled with?  A competitive drive to lift this creation of their own hands over and above the One God who created us all - the Israelites wished for their idol to be the champion, the winner, of the pageantry of divine worship. 

Now, I love the Academy Awards, especially after living in Los Angeles for five years.  But reading these words of Torah as I prepared to celebrate the art of motion pictures certainly has offered me a different perspective on this spectacle. I could not help but think about the comparison of these Oscar statuettes and the golden calf.  Our society's emphasis on winning has taken what could be a true nod to the craft of acting and directing and costume design and the potential for what art can inspire in each of us, and instead can become empty icons of status and popularity. So many of these performances and movies are worthy of celebration for the ways they move us, make us think, give us hope, and inspires us to change the world.  We sacrifice our opportunities to see the deeper gifts that art offers us when we allow the pageantry to become the center, the definition, the height of artistic achievement.

The Academy Awards happen to be the timely victim of my Ki Tisa message, but we have to be aware that as humans we have a tendency to create our own golden calves. We allow the objects of our artisanship to become bigger than life, and ends of themselves.  Doing so only tears us away from our opportunities to find holiness in our world. Instead, if we allow our crafts to express and complement our values, to unlock our imaginations, and to inspire us towards meaningful ways to improve our world, our relationships and our lives, we can all experience the gifts of art - even more so than the Oscar winners from this weekend.

- Rabbi Ari N. Margolis
Parashat Ki Tisa 5773

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Happy New Year 5773!!

Happy New Year to all!!  I'm hoping this year will bring sweetness, joy, and peace to us all.  In case you have not heard enough High Holy Day sermons yet, here's another to get you into the mode of these Days of Awe.

FOR WHOM THE SHOFAR TOLLS



No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thine own
Or of thine friend's were.
Each man's death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.[1]  

         As we gather together to celebrate the New Year and prepare ourselves for the awe-filled day of Yom Kippur, we reflect on our personal journeys for this past year.  We may not use a bell, but our shofar blast reminds us to use these next ten days to ask forgiveness from those we have wronged, to take stock of the ways we have missed the mark, and to plot a new path forward – we continue the important struggle to improve upon the vessel of humanity that we each one of us calls “me.”
However, leaving our reflection at this personal, individual level renders us incomplete for the year to come.  As John Donne’s 17th century poem reminds us, no person is an island, unless of course you’re Paul Simon.  And while the work on the self is very important, failing to simultaneously place ourselves in the greater context of our society can lead us to being just as impenetrable and obtuse as a rock. We are moved by our cultural milieu, the events and happenings of our world shape our lives and often demand a response from us. 
It is incredible how much has happened in our world since the last time we gathered together to celebrate a new year. So, I invite you to journey with me a bit – I’ve put together a quick scan of 5772 – on the local, national, and international levels to help us to link our personal reflections to our society, as a whole. 
        
Not long after our High Holy Days last year, in October, we learned of the improbable return of Gilad Shalit, Israeli hostage, to his parents after more than 5 years of uncertainty as to whether or not he was still alive.  The Israeli government released over 1,000 Palestinian prisoners who were captured for a wide range of offenses, including terrorist activity that killed Israeli citizens. Due to the perseverance of international advocacy, hope, and the Jewish value of pikuach nefesh, preserving life; conditions arose that allowed Mr. Shalit to come home be sent on a new assignment – one that brought him to Miami this past winter to observe and report on the NBA Finals for an Israeli newspaper. 

In November we witnessed the tragic crumbling of the legacy of Joe Paterno, now infamous former football coach of the Penn State Nittany Lions, whose loyalty to a football program prompted him and others in positions of power to stand idly by, enabling numerous youths to be victimized.  

Then came December.  After 8 ½ years, there was war no more in Iraq. 
Meanwhile, locally, the Town of Cary worked with members of the Jewish community – some of whom are here with us today – to host a community Chanukah festival.  The gathering of thousands gave each of us in attendance a renewed sense of acceptance here in our area and pride in our local Jewish community.

If we fast-forward to February, news broke of the row that was caused when the Susan G. Komen foundation for breast cancer research announced it would cut funds for the Planned Parenthood organization.  This news sparked such an outrage by many supporters of the philanthropy that the foundation reversed its course.

Also, we learned that members of the Mormon Church had posthumously baptized prominent Jewish figures, such as Anne Frank and Jewish journalist Daniel Pearl. The church responded to outrage with a declaration that it would eliminate “unauthorized” baptisms.

Then in March we heard of the tragic shooting at a Jewish school in Toulouse, France, which left four people dead, including the school’s rabbi and his two children.  This incident as well as a rash of shootings in Toulouse in the days prior all targeted minorities, occurring in the midst of a flare up of nationalistic political rhetoric in the midst of a campaign season in France. [2]  Unfortunately, later in the summer we saw a similar prejudicial shooting closer to home as a gunman opened fire in a Sikh Temple in Wisconsin.

Fortunately, April gave us another reason to join together and strengthen the bonds of our community in an incredible gala, celebrating 100 years of Temple Beth Or.  We honored our Jewish vaule of l’dor va-dor – from generation to generation.  What an uplifting evening!

May followed, bringing a key statewide election in which Amendment One was approved, narrowly defining marriage between one man and one woman as the only legal domestic union recognized by the state.  We’ll revisit this a little later.

Then, this past July, we could not help being lifted up by Jewish gymnast, Aly Rasiman, earning a gold medal for her gymnastics floor routine performed to the song, Hava Nagilah.  While Aly twirled with grace, we proudly witnessed international crowds raucously clapping to OUR melody, the one we embrace in most of our own cultural celebrations.  Her victorious display of pride in her heritage was rendered that much sweeter in the backdrop of the International Olympic Committee’s decision not to publicly honor the Israeli victims of a terrorist attack at the Olympics 40 years prior.

Overall, we know that our economy is not as strong as we’d like it to be and the political rhetoric a bit too strong.  We’ve seen an upswing in liberty across much of the Middle East, but it has come with a cost of violence.  Whether or not freedom truly will ring remains a chapter yet to be written.

I’m sure that I left out a few events here and there – I don’t want to keep us here until Yom Kippur.  But it has been quite a year.  We look at these stories – reasons to celebrate, juxtaposed with those events that have invoked moral outrage.  These are our stories – the legacy of the time in which we are living. 

         As we reflect on these stories, an interesting trend emerges.  In a number of these chronicled events, we have seen the impact of individuals coming together to take a stand.  Whether collective action took as long as the captivity of Gilad Shalit or the couple of days that it took for the Susan G. Komen Foundation to reassess their decisions, people all across our society, just like you and me, stood up for their values and shaped the threads of our societal stories. Rather than passively allowing the status quo to mold us into an acceptance of a new reality – one that in some cases may have run counter to our own values – some refused to malleably contort and instead pushed back, creating a new outcome. 
When we look at the ways that these events in our world have unfolded, we cannot help but see that we have a responsibility to our world. Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel taught that, we each have to make a decision: We cannot remain in a vacuum – unless we proactively shine the light of our values onto the world, it is invaded by darkness.  Our tradition constantly urges us to look after those who are most vulnerable in our society – the orphan, the widow, the poor.  Look around - there are too many who are vulnerable all around us – those whose ability to fully participate in our society are threatened, because of economics, because of sexual orientation, because of gender or race or religion. Though Rabbi Heschel was a leading figure in the ‘60s, during the civil rights movement in our country, make no mistake – the need to stand up for human rights is just as real today in order to protect the rights we have – the rights of women, the rights of the poor and disadvantaged, the rights of religious minorities everywhere including those of Jews.  Rabbi Heschel’s words still ring true for us today: “This is no time for neutrality. [As Jews, we] cannot remain aloof or indifferent.”[3]  We have to care.
We must become moved movers.  We must allow our visceral reactions to the opportunities and injustices we see around us to bubble inside and stir our kishkes, just as the prophet Jeremiah did.  Even when he tried not to share his prophetic words on how society should change, they burned like fire in his belly until he let them out for all to hear.  Of all times of the year, this is the time to let our passions ignite. Elie Wiesel has taught – “The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of beauty is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference.[4] To create a society of beauty and love, we cannot throw our hands in the air in defeat at the paralyzingly large stories that come at us in the news every day.  We have a responsibility to care, to act.
Here at TBO, our social action committee is dedicated to continuing to shape the world around us in 5773.  Starting now, we can do our part to curb hunger around us, locally, by filling the bags at your seats with food and returning them by Yom Kippur.  During Sukkot (the first week of October), we will be working with the Raleigh Tribe to build a Sukkah at Moore Square.  We will even have a Jewish Fall Festival Shabbat service downtown in our Sukkah – October 5th.  And all that week, we need your help in going downtown to feed those in need, upholding the one of the ideals of the holiday – distributing our bounty to the hungry. 
At the end of October, we will be ramping up our annual Mitzvah Day with ways for folks of all ages to pray with our feet for the day, addressing some of the needs that surround us.  We hope that everyone in our congregation will come and help shape our local community.  By the end of the High Holy Days, a signup sheet with all the various projects will be available on the TBO website. Our hope is that these projects will just be the start of a year of shaping the world around us, as our social action committee is committed to responding from our Jewish values on other important social issues from human trafficking to immigration to healthy eating to a social action trip to Guatemala.

I know that yesterday, Rabbi Dinner spoke of the importance of Shabbat, of resting.  Now, here I am, saying, “Take action.”  It’s confusing.  But as Rabbi Dinner said last night in the name of Rabbi Heschel, Shabbat is not for the rest of the week, but rather the rest of the week is for Shabbat.  When Shabbat is merely a respite, a chance to escape the rigors of our world that we wish to not think about, Shabbat becomes a tool for the rest of the week.  The true restorative power of Shabbat rest does not come from a George Costanzan “SERENITY NOW!”   Instead, when we use our week to reach beyond ourselves, to impact our society and our community, then our week serves Shabbat.  The peace we earn is one of wholeness, pride in the participation of creation – this kind of rest is saturated with meaning and contentment, allowing us to more easily find that which is tov, which is good in our world, despite all its flaws.
It is important to keep in mind that not all of our efforts will fully shape the world as we hope it to be.  This past year, our community stepped forward to fight intolerance and injustice, as Temple Beth Or took a stand opposing the Amendment One that constitutionally limited the rights of a minority group based on the vote of a majority. Could we have done more?  Always.  Did we win the day?  Unfortunately, we did not.  But this is what it means to walk our values, or as Rabbi Heschel would say, to pray with our feet.  We lifted our prayers of caring for those who are vulnerable in our society, and put them into action.  At this time of reflection and renewal, we can look back not with regret, but rather with the peace that comes from knowing that we stood true to our Reform Jewish values.  We must balance our vigor to shape our world with the perspective and patience that Rabbi Tarfon teaches in the Talmud, Lo Alecha Hamlacha Ligmor - It is not our job to complete the task, nor is it our job to desist from it.[5]  Let us not get bogged down in the struggle and what was lost – rather, let us recapture the momentum of our passion from this past year and refocus it where we can continue to make a difference.
Therefore, let us use these High Holy Days to revisit the various events of this past year – to allow ourselves to be moved by what has happened around us.  Some moments may have been uplifting times of connection that brought us meaning, that we may wish to recapture in the year to come.  Others may have aroused in us a moral indignation that we cannot easily hold inside.  On Yom Kippur, we will stand side-by-side with our family and friends, our community, declaring – ASHAMNU, BAGADNU – WE have sinned, We have transgressed – not I, WE.  Our prayers demand that we tie our fate to one another and that we work to pull ourselves and one another out of the pitfalls of our year. 
As we strive to learn from the year that has passed and make this next year even better, may we each remember that the work we do on the self is only complete when it allows us to become shapers of our world.  By taking action in our world, we too are moved.  This cycle will allow us to create the space for rest, for Shabbat, and an appreciation for what will be tov within 5773.  Returning to my opening poem, with apologies to John Donne and any poetic structuralists who may be here today, a modified version might offer guidance in how to make 5773 a Shanah Tovah:
Remember – no person is an island,
Complete in oneself.
Each is a piece of our society,
A part of the main.
When one of us is swept under the sea of injustice,
We are all less.
Just as if an entire race or gender were dehumanized.
As well as if the house I own
Or that of my friend’s were lost to the perils of our economy.
Each person’s needless suffering diminishes me.
For I am involved in humankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the shofar calls.
It calls for thee.


Rosh Hashanah Sermon 5773 by Rabbi Ari Margolis, delivered at Temple Beth Or - please email rabbimargolis@gmail.com if you wish to cite material


[1] John Donne, 17th Century English Poet. “Meditation XVII,” from Devotions upon Emergent Occasions, 1623
[2] http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/mar/19/toulouse-shootings-race-religion-murder-france
[3] Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, “No Time for Neutrality” in Moral Grandeur and Spiritual Audacity: Essays. New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1996. p. 75
[4] Interview with Elie Wiesel, published in US News & World Report (27 October 1986)
[5] Pirkei Avot 2:21


Friday, August 17, 2012

Creating the Jewels of Elul



As a world community, we just finished watching the Olympic Games.  (And I am so glad they have finished, because it means I no longer have to stay up late to watch the decathlon finals or amazing diving or gymnastic glory). In a flash of triumph – even those who just made it to the track or swimming pool – created a lifetime’s worth of memories that should make each athlete proud.  Not everyone can say he or she was an Olympic athlete.  Absent from these brief moments of splendor that we witnessed, however, were all the reps and training and practice and trials that each individual had to go through in order to make it to this highest stage of athletic competition.

            This weekend, we enter the month of Elul – the season that leads us to the High Holy Days.  It is traditionally the time in which we start preparing ourselves for the potential to be spiritually transformed during our time between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur – cleansed of the baggage of this past year and lightened as we take on the challenges and opportunities to face us in this next.  We strive to have our own moments of glory as we stand before God and, perhaps even more importantly, ourselves, and declare, “I have done all I can to put last year behind me, let me approach this year with a clean slate.” 
                       
Our scholars remind us that this is the time of year for us to do the hard work that allows us to have a meaningful High Holy Day experience.  Now is the time to reach out to those we love and ask forgiveness, to confront issues that are hanging over us and move beyond them.  Now is the time to notice the ways in which our world is unjust and how we as individuals are contributing to the problems that plague our communities, so we can begin to shift our patterns.  Now is the time to deeply ask ourselves if we are living up to our own expectations for who we want to be and start re-aligning our choices and commitments to bring us closer to our ideals. 

It amazes me how quickly summer can fly past us.  In a blink of an eye, at TBO, we have gone from the last day of religious school past the Olympic games and back into the very exciting time of getting ready to welcome back all our wonderful youth whom we’ve missed over these past few months.  Blink again, and Yom Kippur will be over. Let us not just fly through on autopilot, living out what life gives us instead of setting out each day with intention.  No athlete accidentally ended up on an Olympic team.  May we each put the time and efforts now to discover the Jewels of Elul,* being able to have our own moving ceremonies during this High Holy Day season – may they be holidays of gold for us all.


-          Rabbi Ari N. Margolis
Parashat R’eih

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Friday, August 3, 2012

The Olympic Spirit of Shema


SHEMA, Yisrael! Adonai, Eloheinu. Adonai Echad.
Hear/Listen, O Israel! Adonai is our God. Adonai is One.

            This week, our world’s attention has been drawn to a central focus– the Olympic games.  These celebrations of athleticism and sportsmanship (ideally) mark for us the coming together of people who ordinarily would have no opportunities or desires to stand side-by-side. American women shared a soccer field with the women from North Korea.  An Israeli swimmer shared a pool with a Palestinian swimmer.  Even LeBron James, Kobe Bryant, and Kevin Durant are sharing a basketball court in harmony, under the tutelage of local legend Mike Krzyzewski!
            It is most appropriate that our Torah portion this week brings forth our central blessing – the Shema.  With its theme of unity and interconnection, these words, like the Olympic games, remind us of how we are all bound together.  The wisdom and power of this blessing, however, come from the opening of our prayer – Shema – a word that many scholars have concluded means both “listen” and “hear” at the same time.  Only through enacting Shema, opening ourselves to hearing others nearby and honestly listening – openly, without agenda or ego, seeking to learn and not just to make our next point – do we find that place of connection to others through which we understand what it is to be a part of God’s One-ness, echad
            We are called upon to be witnesses through this blessing, and every Torah scroll and mezuzah in existence reminds us of this point as the final letters in the first and last words of the prayer are written much larger than the rest of the phrase, forming the Hebrew word, Eid, witness. 

In our world today, especially in our political discourse, there is not enough listening that happens.  All too often politicians, public figures, corporations, religious figureheads, and countless other leaders speak without ever truly listening to any opinion we do not wish to hear.  Without listening, nothing can penetrate the wisdom and conviction of the individual.  But such a state of existence is exactly opposite the oneness of God – it only escalates the oneness of isolation and individualism. 

           
      May we each allow this week’s Torah portion to inspire us to seek opportunities to truly listen to and openly hear other opinions in our midst.  Let us not reject wisdom that comes our way merely because of its source.  As we watch the Olympic games, let us not get caught up solely in the celebration of those who are faster, higher, and stronger (which is fun, don’t get me wrong).  Let us open our hearts and minds to the recognition that many of the seemingly intractable issues in our world are put aside for the chance to be a part of something as big and incredible as the Olympics.  As such, how much the more so should we recognize that it is possible to find and seek peace in our world and communities.  All we have to do is start with Shema.
Rabbi Ari N. Margolis
V’etchanan 5772

Friday, July 6, 2012

The Technology of Patience


This came from a couple weeks back, but I never got the chance to post it until now.  Better late than never?

Keep your eyes on the prize . . . Hold on, hold on.”

            I have to admit, I always chuckle at those 4G cellphone commercials – the ones in which a bunch of people are sitting around a tailgate party at a football game, one of them trying to fill the others in on some updated story about the health of a player or a video of something funny on his “ancient” 3G network while the others with their new 4G phones have all heard or seen the “discovery” 30 seconds prior. 
Now, I have no clue what cell phone provider the commercials are for (effective advertising?), but I at least get the point about 4G verses 3G.  The ad-wizards who came up with that one recognize that we in today’s society have a perceived need for instant gratification.  And knowing that we can get an answer to who wrote the song that we just heard or how many ounces there are in a cup (8 for anyone cooking while reading this) just a few seconds faster is a life-changing phenomenon.

The technological advances of our day train us to forgo any need for patience.  If we want to order a sandwich for lunch, we can make up our mind from wherever we are by finding the menu online, avoid lines by putting in the order online, and even streamline our route by programming our GPS devices to avoid traffic.  While these advances can make us feel incredibly efficient, they also can train us to think and feel that we can always find a faster way.  And we can get so caught up in the allure of the quick answer, that we can accept the inferior alternative, or even worse, one that does more harm than good.

There isn't always a quick solution.  Sometimes, we do have to wait it out – to hold on. A couple of weeks ago, our Torah portion of Korach told a pretty difficult story of trading patience for convenience.  The people of Israel were sick of wandering in the desert.  They wanted to be there already – they ask the biblical version of the backseat question, “Are we there, yet?”  Korach and his followers attempted to find the quicker alternative, they chose the route of being something they were not – not am Yisrael, the people who wrestle with God, but rather they became people who wrestled against God. In doing so they find a route that leads to their demise.
There are aspects of our lives in which there are no shortcuts.  And just as much as we are willing to invest in technology that makes our lives more efficient, where we can, we should be investing in structures that help us maintain patience when we need it the most.  When we find ourselves or others in need of healing, while we are working to accomplish a major goal at work, while looking for a new job in this economic climate – sometimes we need a good dose of patience.  And to help us remain patient at the times we need it the most, to help us keep our eyes on the prize, as Zemer Lexie often sings to us during the Mi Chamochah prayer at services, we have to turn to our technology of patience – the supportive friends and family and community who can help us sustain our goals, who can lift us up and offer us strength, who can remind us of who we are, when it is tempting to try to be something we are not.
May we each use this summer as a period of upgrading our own technologies of patience.  Let us spend time doing activities that ground us and help us to remember just who we truly aspire to be, and let us strengthen our connections with friends and family and community.  This way, when life calls upon us to find patience, we can take the route that truly leads towards promise, and avoid the pitfalls of the more destructive decisions of haste and convenience.
-          Rabbi Ari N. Margolis Parashat Korach 5772

Friday, June 1, 2012

Female Rabbis, Nazarties, and Priests - OH MY!


                It is official women and Reform Jews can be recognized as Rabbis by the government of Israel.  This past week the Israeli Supreme Court has ruled to recognize Rabbi Miri Gold as the first female and first Reform rabbi to be recognized as the spiritual leader of a neighborhood community.  In Israel, neighborhoods can recognize a rabbi to be the spiritual leader in the area, and such rabbis’ salaries are paid by the State of Israel.  With the Attorney General’s acceptance of the Supreme Court decision, Rabbi Gold, who is the rabbi of Kibbutz Gezer, will be recognized and paid by the State of Israel at a rate equal to the over 4000 Orthodox Rabbis already recognized.  You can read more about this decision via the Israeli newspaper, Haaretz, by clicking here or by reading Rabbi Gold’s own words here.  This has been quite a long road for Rabbi Gold, as I had the privilege of attending a Supreme Court session with some of my classmates in which the court heard Rabbi Gold's case and once again pushed the decision-making to a later date . . . and that was 2008!

It is appropriate that all of Rabbi Gold’s work and sacrifice paid off this of all weeks, as in our Torah portion, we learn about the biblical equivalent of achieving long-term, groundbreaking goals.  While Rabbi Gold had the support of IRAC (Israel Religious Action Center – the Reform Movement’s Israel advocacy branch) pushing the case through the venue of the Israeli court system in order to make her groundbreaking mark on our world, the Torah puts forth a system for change called the Nazarite vow.  One seeking to make a huge change would take this vow, dedicating oneself to the completion of the task and abstaining from shaving, alcohol (or any contact with grapes), and any other self-identified restrictions until the goal has been accomplished (See Numbers, Chapter 6).  In this biblical system, we learn that the Nazir, one who has taken such a vow, commits him or herself (the Torah makes clear that both men and women can enter into such vows) to their ultimate goal and continues to work towards it until completion. 

This Nazarite vow comes as a biblical lesson teaching that great achievement takes sacrifice and dedication.  However, the rabbis of Talmudic times and today recognize that one need not make a formal vow in order to commit oneself with the dedication and resolve shown by Rabbi Gold or shown by so many of us who sacrifice so much in order to achieve our own goals today.    

What I find interesting about this section of Torah is that the Nazarite vow is juxtaposed with one of the most famous blessings of our tradition – the Priestly Blessing – which comes just after the rules of the Nazarite vows.  Rather than seeking change and large accomplishment, this tripartite blessing challenges us to find favor and contentedness in what we are faced with in this world. 

May God bless you and protect you
May the face of God shine upon you and comfort you
May the presence of God be ever with you and grant you peace. (Numbers 6:22-24)

Perhaps this blessing comes on the heels of the Nazarite vow to warn us that we should not get so one-track minded in our pursuits as to miss the blessings that surround us.  Or perhaps it comes after the Nazarite section to remind us the importance of giving thanks for what we have achieved, once we accomplish our goals and can be freed of the vows, commitments, sacrifices, dedications we made to our large goals. 

                In living up to the blessings that complement our Nazarite rules, may we each do three things this weekend: 

1) May we spend this Shabbat taking a moment to be thankful of what we have, even in the midst of our dedication to larger goals.  It’s not fair of me to ask this of you without doing it myself, so I will start: I know I have a lot to give thanks for in our TBO community – thank you all for allowing me to have the time to spend these last few weeks with the great miracle in my family’s life, our newest daughter, Adaya Faye.  Your support and love has been a great source of strength in the middle of our long nights, and the ability to be at home, growing into our new family has made a world of difference to our lives.

     2) And in recognition of Rabbi Miri Gold’s achievement and the efforts of IRAC, Anat Hoffman, the head of IRAC , has asked that letters of thanks be sent to the Israeli government. You can do so by writing to Prime Minister Netanyahu to inform him of our appreciation that Rabbi Miri Gold is finally able to serve her congregation and community as an equal to members of the Orthodox rabbinate.

     3) Find someone to whom we can offer this wonderful blessing, reminding them to take a moment to allow themselves to BE blessed.

May God bless you and protect you.  May the face of God shine upon you and comfort you.  May the presence of God be with you and grant you peace.